Everybody Loves Somebody Sometime

I wonder if it’s true that everybody likes somebody, and everyone is liked by someone else. But more importantly than that: is there such a thing as a perfect love? Not even perfect love, but mutual love in general?

Earlier today, I tried to connect all the relationships of my friends and people I know, and it seems like a never ending chain of people lying, cheating, in love with their best friend’s significant other and the like.

It’s sort of sad but by reflecting on all my friends who are in relationships or were in realtionships, I’ve noticed that something is terribly wrong with all of them.

Not trivial things such as “She’s dating a guy with funny hair”, but real issues that they either can’t overcome, or they just ignore. A female friend of mine at school had been in a relationship with an abusive boy, who was so protective he erased half of the numbers in her cell phone and refused to let her out of his sight on the weekends. Another girl currently has 3 boyfriends, none of them know about the others, but she loves them all equally, so it’s hard to tell. Someone I used to know loves her boyfriend to death, but he loves someone else; her best friend. She can’t break up with him because she loves him too much, but obviously it isn’t mutual.

In addition to these I happen to know a lot of people, male and female who are deeply in love with their significant other, but are completely oblivious to the fact that the person doesn’t love them back. They may like them but they don’t love them. That’s one of thesaddest things to witness, because you look at the person who is in love, having the time of their life, just so happy and charismatic; but only you and a few choice people know that it’s all one sided, and no one can tell the person in love. To tell them would be to kill their happy energy, and ruin their chances and hope for love again, which is something no one wants to do.

This all brings me to something I haven’t been able to get off my mind for years. In middle school, my friend… Cow had liked this guy who dated one of our close friends soon after he was aware of her feelings. She was sad and venting on the phone. I don’t remember how our conversation got to this point but I had said

“But you still love him.” to which she replied:

“There is no such thing as being in love if your “love” is unrequited. It’s only infatuation. Love requires two people.”

I took her words to be true, because they seemed true. At some point in their lives, everyone has a crush, and they say to themselves “I love this person.” Then after sometime, their crush proves to be fruitless, and they move on to the next person, claiming to “love” them to. But is love swayed that quickly? I’d be broken if I was in love and in a relationship and my boyfriend just said one day “I don’t love you anymore, I love that chick over there.”

“Love requires two people”

Here’s where all my logic finds in it’s face a counterexample: The One-Sided Relationship.

As mentioned before, I’ve seen relatioships with one person in love and unaware of their significant other’s feelings, which are usually of the  ”friendly like” kind and not the”love” kind. Is it wrong to say that the unaware lover isn’t in love? That he/she is simply infatuated with the other person?

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It is wrong. One can be in love without being love, what they feel determines this.

It is right. One cannot be in love without being loved, what they don’t feel determines this.

 

I’m a Pretty Impossible Lady to be With: Valentine’s Day Rant(?)

I wonder if everyone finds Valentine’s day horribly cliche, or if it’s just single people who watch couples during Valentine’s Day that find it cliche.

I of course, find that it can be horribly cliche. But it can also be different, i suppose, if you try hard enough. But does anyone?

To illustrate my point, I’ll use one couple I found particularly interesting last year. Not to say I’m a stalker, but when you’re sitting on the ground at lunch, surrounded by people who enjoy throwing bread and chips at each other, you try to zone out and focus on other things. I focused on a random junior (then a sophomore) sitting under the trees behind my strip of cement.

He did it all for his lucky lady, flowers, stuffed animal (i think a dog?), See’s candy, the works.

And to top it all off, she got a serenade, Jason Mraz’s “I’m Yours”.

I remember my first thought being “Oh that’s so sweet! Lucky biatch…”

About 3 hours later…

A couple stood outside of my spanish class (not the aforementioned couple) after school. I didn’t pay much attention, until…

“I won’t hesitate… no more… no more… it cannot wait, I’m yours!”

WOW. Two different couples, same deal.

I can just imagine a conversation between the two females with the same serenade.

Girl 1: OMG! My bf just gave me a stuffed dog.

Girl 2: Oh yeah? My bf just gave me a stuffed cat.

1: Not as cool as my See’s candy!

2: Please, I got the dark chocolate paackkk. WAY better than that assorted mix your douchebag of a bf got you.

1:  HE SANG ME “I’M YOURS”! IF THAT’S NOT LOVE I DON’T KNOW WHAT LOVE IS!!!

2: [see above reaction]

Maybe I’m just a bitter single, but I wouldn’t want something so horribly overdone. I’m sure those girls were very happy to get something, but I’m a little more for originality.

You think with all the smart people at Whitney, Valentine’s Day would be a little more creative and unpredictable.

But it’s not.

Now if I were serenaded I’d be stoked to have a guy sing me something cheesy like a Spice Girls song. Or “Barbie Girl” by Aqua.

Now before you think “How unromantic can you be? You’re gonna be a spinster for the rest of your life!”, (as so many wonderful freshman I’ve met have told me so delicately this year), at least try to see it my way.

Which sounds better (ladies):

Option 1: May, I love you so much, I’m going to sing you the words of love written by someone else! “This is our fate, I’m yoooouuuurrrsssss <3″

or

Option 2: Misty I love you so much, I’m not afraid of being embarrassed for you, or my friends wanting to kick my ass after i sing this for you: ”I’M A BARBIE GIRL, IN A BARBIE WORLD!”

Ha.

You pick.

Now (males) pick option one and you get a girlfriend who may be slightly unoriginal, boring, and possibly pissed off when she finds out all her friends got the same thing she did. If she’s not worthy of something different, your relationship probably won’t be going anywhere for a long time.

Loooooong time.

Pick option two and you get a girlfriend who’s slightly offbeat, can take a joke, and will probably brag to all her friends about her cool, funny boyfriend. Progress can be made, for spontaneous people always make progress.

Just look at Grapes.

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Hmmmm…

I think the answer is obvious.

Unless I’m making a big deal out of nothing, and being different is too much to ask for.

Some people use the excuse “Well, I don’t know what song/candy they like, so I just played it safe with Jason Mraz and Chocolate!”

My ass. If you don’t know something as simple as one freaking love song your significant other likes, you should a) Have gotten to know them better before you got together or b) DIIIIEEEEEEEEE, because I swear if I hear any of the following songs played more than once this Valentine’s Day (or the friday before, at school) I’m going to cause great bodily harm to myself. Baaaad:

“I’m Yours” Jason Mraz

“I Will Always Love You” Whitney Houston. May be the most overplayed love song of all time.

“Hopelessly Devoted to You” From the Grease Musical

“Viva La Vida” Coldplay-I swear to god someone’s gonna sing this.

“Soulja Boy” – don’t know if that’s the name or who the artist is. Song has nothing to do with love but I heard it a few times last year.

“Never Gonna Give You Up” -no explanation needed.

Anything Al Green.

Anything Marvin Gaye.

 

Bye.

Upon Buying a Valentine at Wal*Mart Today…

The checkout woman said “Awww how sweet!”

I smiled politely.

She read the shimmering writing on the card, and made a funny face.

Then she said:

“… Why would your boyfriend want a “Little Mermaid” valentine?”

Me: ” …uh… “

PWNED.

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I don’t think she realized it was a joke…

Now she probably thinks I have some wimp boyfriend. Greaaat.

To Those of Us Who Knew the Pain of Valentines That Never Came

Upon looking at my Disney Princess calendar, I have discovered that Valentine’s Day is in a few weeks.

Sigh…

Looks like another year of sitting in my room listening to Journey and “All Cried Out” By Lisa Lisa.

I actually had a deep, insightful thought (rare for me, right?) about what I want for Valentine’s Day, which I will post when I don’t have an essay to edit.

Of course, I wouldn’t mind a serenade from Grapes (hint, hint).

Just as long as it isn’t “Big Girl, You Are Beautiful” Some mo fo’ gon git beet up fo’ that shit.

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I hate how no matter what I say or write, I sound like a dork.